Lolo Knows

Beginning right now in this moment begin living your life in such a way that you will never go to your death bed and say this , “I wish I spent more time with my friends and family, enjoying life, worrying less, and smiling more.” Nobody ever says “I wish I had more things and money and spent more time working and worrying.” So, now that you know the true secret to happiness and fulfillment, begin living that truth now.  

You Can’t Please Everyone It’s impossible to live up to everyone’s expectations. There will always be people — no matter what we say or how we treat them — that will judge us. Whether you’re at the gym, at work, taking the train, or even online playing Call of Duty. Even now it‘s happening.  You will never be able to stop people from judging you, but you can stop it from affecting you.  Think about the worst thing that could possibly happen when someone is judging you or what you’re doing. I guarantee that chances are —  nothing will happen. Absolutely nothing. No one is going to go out of their busy lives to confront us, or even react for that matter. Because as I mentioned before,  no one actually cares. What will happen, is that these people will actually respect you for claiming your ground. They may disagree with you, but they’ll respect you. Start standing up for what you believe in — causes, opinions,  anything . You’re going to have people that disagree with ...

Saw this and wanted to share with you all. No need to explain each one. Just take this list into your mind and sink it deep into your heart and remember this as you go through each day of living. Just remember to wake up and say thank you for another day. I don't give a shit what you may be going through. At least you know if your heart is still beating, there is a grand purpose you came to fulfill. Do not forget that and let that be the thought that guides you out of whatever issue you are currently dealing with and don't forget you are loved by someone and something out here guiding you that will make it right again. Trust that!  I am living proof and one day you will hear my story and how I came to be Lolo Knows.

All I have to say is written here!  Please pay attention to it and stop with the things that are intentionally creating conflicts in our lives. All lives matter. You all should do everything to avoid the hate and conflict that spreads like an airborne virus throughout our present day. Pay attention to yourselves. Pray for the ones that don't get it and in hopes that they do. Love and light and God bless you all!!

Taking care of yourself is essential. How do you expect to help others if your cup is nearly empty?  Each day little bits and pieces of our energy is zapped by life's everyday occurrences, jobs, family, personal and intimate relationships. It's like being Iron Man and as strong as he is, he needs to recharge and so do we..  Enough with the people pleasing and caring what others might think of you. Life is tough enough and the matter of your self worth and happiness should be numero uno. The problem with today is we are too busy with social media or other people's affairs that our own affairs take a back seat. It's time to obey this list folks.. Here are 12 steps to self care and getting your own happiness back on track. Trust me, my life has been a work in progress and I am still mastering this list here but each day it gets easier to reflect when coping with life's obstacles or deflections that try to get us off track. Meditate on this at least once a day and watch...

A toddler falls down at least 50 times before being able to walk but never once does he or she say that they can not do it. During each stage of our lives no matter where we are, expect to fall more times than not, but never not want to give up. Falling down hard has built more tremendous lives than not.  There are times when I go through my pitfalls and get exhausted, doubt, kick and scream because sometimes when I see the top of the mountain, it's not as close as I thought it was and more needs to be done. Life is a mountain climb and we must continue to never give up on whatever it is our path has us on and believe in yourself that your time in being there will come. Never give up seeing yourself there. This past weekend was very tough for me and I didn't quite feel like myself and needed to remind myself of why I am writing to you now. I do not want you to give up either. If you are a mother or father, play that role well, if you are a banker, financial advisor, lawyer, nur...

I hear it all the time from people on what you need to succeed.   “Follow your passion”. Here is is why I have an issue with this advice.   Everyone is passionate about something and usually more than one thing.  We are born with it. There are always going to be things we love to do like music, art, knitting, cooking etc..  The list can go on. Those passions more than likely for most are not worth a nickel. Here's why?  Think about all the things you have been passionate about in your life. Think about all those passions that you considered making a career out of or wanted to build a company around.  How many were there? Why did you bounce from one to another? Why were you not able to make a career or business out of any of those passions ?  Or, if you have been able to have some success, what was the key to the success?  Was it the passion or the effort you put in to your job or company?  If you really want to know where your desti...

Lo's thought of the day.  Folks are going to talk about you till the day you die. Only answer to what's necessary, but quite frankly, you don't need to. We are teachers of one another and if someone needs to talk about you, then be ok with it. They just don't realize the lesson is for them. They may not be getting that lesson yet even though it's being brought up to them to figure out. Just remember this!! It's not your business to even know why. It may truly seem like the world is in some chaotic order, but what I have learned is, it actually is not. We are own walking into our own purpose and not any one of us are walking in the same direction and that's exactly how it's suppose to be. Until we realize that, there will be no peace in our own lives. So, smile and know that you are loved and relax even with the chaos you feel around at times and know just this, it will all be ok. It will work itself out no matter what. Your purpose today is to just enjoy...

Real is most definitely what you make it out to be. Your real isn't everybody's so the fact that some limit their own thoughts to their own reality or what they consider to be living real or seeing things from a real perspective, should not deter you from your own reality and how you choose to live it. What works for you is yours and just maybe their adversity maybe what you need to believe in what you are doing and making your own reality your dream come true!!! 

Skills is where it's at folks and now is a good time to begin tapping into things that you can do or always wanted to. Getting hired is tough but owning your skills and making a living out of them is liberating. It's been 6 years since I worked for someone else and the only reason I did, was to learn a business I was just getting into 3 years before that, but once I learned everything I wanted, I got out and made a way for myself. Having ownership over my esthetics, massage therapy, art business, marketing and speaking skills has been nothing short but a breath of fresh air because nobody in the world can take that away from me. I own it and it was up to me to make a living out of the things I love to do. Some are self starters like me and others just need to tap into it more. Maybe punching a clock gives others more of a relaxed feeling, but always have a back up skill,  to get you over while trying to find another position if for whatever reason something happened to the last...

Above is a list of 10 things worth taking with you when you die. Your character is all you leave this world with so make it a good one. Some will be mad that you are becoming what they wish they were or know damn well they need to be, so keep doing you and being the constant example God has you there to be for them. You can't please everybody because they are growing in their own pace. Be kind anyway and be patient. Pray for the good in others. It's really what they truly need. 

These are the 5 daily reminders I have done in 2015 and will continue to remind myself in 2016. What a year I had, spiritually, emotionally, physically and professionally. 2015 began shakey with my mother's diagnoses to cancer and my son totaling our only car in which he should have been either hurt or dead, but wasn't. I could have seen that beginning as hell freezing over and it sure could have carried off and over and fucked up the rest of my year, but I knew better. This wasn't my first rodeo because I knew when there is rain and clouds, sunshine and rainbows are soon to follow. My prayer to God when I was in California back in February with that short time with the priest gave me the strength, courage and faith I needed to get past all the pain that I was enduring and to know that without a shadow of a doubt that I had the most amazing gift through a sign that was soon to follow. That was all I needed to feel in my heart and soul. Daily, I reminded myself of who I am a...

     How do I know I am with my soulmate? It was such a delayed feeling. I've never been in love like this. I don't think any of us really know what it is until we have it.       I will say this now that I know after eight months of dating and now being engaged to this man and looking back at the first time he made his move to be with me. It felt like riding a bike. Even though I have not rode a bike in years, I am sure it will just come right back to me. It feels just like that, a familiar ride, a familiar feeling. You just know. I never felt uncomfortable at any one time on our first date, I didn't question, he just flowed with me like I knew him forever, and I just felt like myself. I wasn't my representative; I was just me naturally. Our souls were at one and recognized each other by it. It felt magnetic, soulful and like this man had been my best friend forever in which he absolutely is. I asked, I believed, and received the ultimate gift the univ...

This has been quite a time for me in reflection. Reflection is important so that I don't lose myself, the purpose I set out to do and my truth. The world can suck you in easily with so much going on these days especially the way my life can be a fast paced roller coaster. Sometimes, you just have to get off and just sit and take it all in. I have been doing this much more lately, that it's now becoming a habitual pattern that I could not be happier to have adopted. I do not know if it is age, but one thing is certain, I have prayed to get to a point where I would just stop, breathe, and just appreciate all that is around me now in the present moment. Asking my own self, how are you? This is a great question to ask ourselves daily. Think about it! When we first greet someone, we usually ask them how they are. Whether or not,  they tell you the real truth, it's still a proper question and a real question we should ask ourselves everyday. At least we can be truthful to ...

This quote by Charlize Theron says it best. I never wished to be a single mom, but that is what I have been for 21 years and I have to say, it was the best years of my life. My mother got divorced from my father when I was 9 years old and she became a single mom. Having her as an example was the best lesson I could draw from to be the best mom to my boys to this day. It made me want to be better and sacrifice what I needed to, to give my sons the best time and life I could,  so that I could see them thrive better than I did in these conditions. This was my time to prove that not only I could do that, but love in a selfless place and put others needs before my own and grow me to the woman I am today. I am currently able to inspire a generation that would at least want to look at my example and feel that despite the dreams I have had as a little girl, the dream to give my boys what I didn't have manifested because giving to them was like giving to myself and it did pay off. I hav...

This quote is so true. I just saw two people going at it on social media and I told them to make a decision about their relationship and that this was not the place to do it.  That is child's play!! I also told them that my mother was diagnosed with cancer to hopefully put it all in perspective for them so that they could settle a matter that was close to their heart. My friend and artist, Arabella Proffer, and a guest I had on Lolo Knows, put it in perspective. She said she no longer worries about shit because cancer did that for her. Once you have had it and been through it whether physically or emotionally, it should really open up your eyes to what matters. I went through a break up that was difficult for me and my ex.  He wasn't well in  handling it because all he knew how to be was pissed and hurt until he felt he  no longer wanted to be that way. As we were going through an issue one day, at that very moment, I received a text from my sister, telling me a...

There was a time in my life when I was hanging out with all the wrong people. Let me be clear, they were awesome individuals, they just weren’t MY crowd. They didn’t get me, they liked to do all the things I really didn’t care to do and they talked about things I had no interest in. Hanging around with them made me feel drained, depressed and lonely. Lonely because I couldn’t make a connection with them around subjects that had meaning to me… Drained because I had to BE SOMEONE ELSE to fit in with who they were and what they wanted to do… Depressed because, well, it sucks to feel like you don’t fit in or like people just don’t GET you. Am I right? So how do you attract the RIGHT People into your life? Are you ready for this? Because it’s some seriously powerful stuff…  BE YOURSELF. 100% of the time and 100% REAL. If you think that you’re being real, but you’re still finding the wrong people showing up in your life, then you need to take a moment to reassess your YOU-ness. If the wr...

Arabella is a painter and co-founder of the indie label Elephant Stone Records. Her loose narrative themes revolve around a fascination with punk rock, aristocracy, Renaissance portraiture, aging socialites, gothic divas, and medical history. She attended Art Center College of Design in Pasadena, CA before receiving her BFA from California Institute of the Arts. She has participated in solo and group exhibitions throughout North America, as well as Europe, the Middle East, and Australia. Born in Ann Arbor, Michigan, she has taken up residence in Laguna Beach, Los Angeles, and Boston. She and her husband, writer Ben Vendetta, live on the shores of Lake Erie in Cleveland, Ohio. Her book  The National Portrait Gallery of Kessa: The Art of Arabella Proffer  was published in 2011 by Cooperative Press and she has appeared in The Wall Street Journal ,  The LA Times ,  The Plain Dealer ,  Cleveland Scene ,  Hi Fructose Magazine ,  Juxtapoz Magazine...

I have had more than my fair share of ups and downs in the last year and I am sure there will be a few hiccups to overcome this year, but having the support and love from my kids and friends has been the most wonderful testimony because the ones that are currently by my side even in my darkest days, have shown me they were my true supporters.  We need to go through those downs at times to see that  and you better know I asked the Universe to reveal them and I was pleasantly surprised by it's answer. There were folks that came out the woodworks and have literally told me that I had inspired and gave them the determination to go after their life goals and dreams and that I was their strength when they were down. My jaw dropped to the ground and my eyes have been full of tears because although there has been a battle within my own self, God wanted me to know because of what I did for others, that those same ones would be there to be my strength and guide as well. I am beyond...

Don't wait till a new year to begin making those changes you want to do. Those changes should be today. Each day we should wake up and simply want to live in each moment that is given.  What baffles my mind is how people can think that they have all of the time in the world to begin what it is they keep putting off,  but what if you were just given today or next week. What would you do? A DJ friend of mine and to many others got into a horrific car accident and I am sure he did not plan to spend his whole holiday fighting for his life to stay alive. His life changed in that instant and so did his families. Even God states in Ecclesiates 9:11 "Time and unforseen occurrences befall us all." How about each day is a new day and a new beginning. If you have dreams to whatever you want to be in life, live that dream today.  I had a series of ups and downs and felt my life in an unbalanced shuffle of sorts. I didn't wait till a new year to make a change, I vowed to ta...