Lolo Knows

Real is most definitely what you make it out to be. Your real isn't everybody's so the fact that some limit their own thoughts to their own reality or what they consider to be living real or seeing things from a real perspective, should not deter you from your own reality and how you choose to live it. What works for you is yours and just maybe their adversity maybe what you need to believe in what you are doing and making your own reality your dream come true!!! 

Skills is where it's at folks and now is a good time to begin tapping into things that you can do or always wanted to. Getting hired is tough but owning your skills and making a living out of them is liberating. It's been 6 years since I worked for someone else and the only reason I did, was to learn a business I was just getting into 3 years before that, but once I learned everything I wanted, I got out and made a way for myself. Having ownership over my esthetics, massage therapy, art business, marketing and speaking skills has been nothing short but a breath of fresh air because nobody in the world can take that away from me. I own it and it was up to me to make a living out of the things I love to do. Some are self starters like me and others just need to tap into it more. Maybe punching a clock gives others more of a relaxed feeling, but always have a back up skill,  to get you over while trying to find another position if for whatever reason something happened to the last...

I have had more than my fair share of ups and downs in the last year and I am sure there will be a few hiccups to overcome this year, but having the support and love from my kids and friends has been the most wonderful testimony because the ones that are currently by my side even in my darkest days, have shown me they were my true supporters.  We need to go through those downs at times to see that  and you better know I asked the Universe to reveal them and I was pleasantly surprised by it's answer. There were folks that came out the woodworks and have literally told me that I had inspired and gave them the determination to go after their life goals and dreams and that I was their strength when they were down. My jaw dropped to the ground and my eyes have been full of tears because although there has been a battle within my own self, God wanted me to know because of what I did for others, that those same ones would be there to be my strength and guide as well. I am beyond...

I can't say how true this actually is. The old saying is,  "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" Ladies, it's all good to give this man the best you can give but don't go out of your way to be a wife when he hasn't even given you a ring or set a date for the wedding. Wives have different duties than girlfriends. Stay in your lane!  When he is ready to move forward in your relationship, then by all means do the laundry, cook those meals, clean his house, take care of his appointments, run those errands, be his bookkeeper... You get my drift? In the meantime, your role should just simply be  enjoying your date nights, talking about your careers and building your friendship period. I know there are different strokes for different folks, but too many times I have seen women getting hurt because they put their best foot forward with no pay out in the end. Just love and be patient with yourself and trust God that he will place the right ...