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"Someone once said holding resentment toward another person is like drinking arsenic and hoping the person you are resenting dies. Buddha put it another way: “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else—you are the one who gets burned.” This helps put it into perspective, doesn't it?  It is the mental and emotional act of resending toxic and negative energy through our own minds and bodies, repeatedly. This is not to diminish the fact that many of us may have legitimate reasons to be angry towards another person. Sometimes people do thoughtless and even cruel things to each other. However, stop and think about it: Does holding onto resentment serve YOU in a positive, life affirming way? Most likely, the answer is no. In many cases, the person or people we hold in resentment don’t even know or care...or worse yet, some of them are already in the grave but we are still allowing them to hold us hostage to the past. What ...

The spirit of forgiveness is harnessed within the spirit of love and compassion–the love characteristic in how we are taught that God loves us; the love for which most of us love our children, our family, and even our friends. I’m not speaking of ego-based love, which is usually associated with being “in love,” or “passionate love.” I’m speaking of the unconditional love we usually reserve for those who we put beyond our egos. If we can find it in our heart to delve for this compassionate loving spirit for all those we love, especially those we are “in love with,” we will find it impossible  not  to forgive our beloved when we perceive they have hurt us. Now just because we forgive someone does not mean that we should allow anyone to continually hurt us. It means that we release them from the anger, resentment, and bitterness usually associated with an unforgiving spirit. It means that we love them, in spite of….. We love them whether they are in our lives or out of our lives…...