Lolo Knows

This quote by Charlize Theron says it best. I never wished to be a single mom, but that is what I have been for 21 years and I have to say, it was the best years of my life. My mother got divorced from my father when I was 9 years old and she became a single mom. Having her as an example was the best lesson I could draw from to be the best mom to my boys to this day. It made me want to be better and sacrifice what I needed to, to give my sons the best time and life I could,  so that I could see them thrive better than I did in these conditions. This was my time to prove that not only I could do that, but love in a selfless place and put others needs before my own and grow me to the woman I am today. I am currently able to inspire a generation that would at least want to look at my example and feel that despite the dreams I have had as a little girl, the dream to give my boys what I didn't have manifested because giving to them was like giving to myself and it did pay off. I hav...

This quote is so true. I just saw two people going at it on social media and I told them to make a decision about their relationship and that this was not the place to do it.  That is child's play!! I also told them that my mother was diagnosed with cancer to hopefully put it all in perspective for them so that they could settle a matter that was close to their heart. My friend and artist, Arabella Proffer, and a guest I had on Lolo Knows, put it in perspective. She said she no longer worries about shit because cancer did that for her. Once you have had it and been through it whether physically or emotionally, it should really open up your eyes to what matters. I went through a break up that was difficult for me and my ex.  He wasn't well in  handling it because all he knew how to be was pissed and hurt until he felt he  no longer wanted to be that way. As we were going through an issue one day, at that very moment, I received a text from my sister, telling me a...

There was a time in my life when I was hanging out with all the wrong people. Let me be clear, they were awesome individuals, they just weren’t MY crowd. They didn’t get me, they liked to do all the things I really didn’t care to do and they talked about things I had no interest in. Hanging around with them made me feel drained, depressed and lonely. Lonely because I couldn’t make a connection with them around subjects that had meaning to me… Drained because I had to BE SOMEONE ELSE to fit in with who they were and what they wanted to do… Depressed because, well, it sucks to feel like you don’t fit in or like people just don’t GET you. Am I right? So how do you attract the RIGHT People into your life? Are you ready for this? Because it’s some seriously powerful stuff…  BE YOURSELF. 100% of the time and 100% REAL. If you think that you’re being real, but you’re still finding the wrong people showing up in your life, then you need to take a moment to reassess your YOU-ness. If the wr...

Arabella is a painter and co-founder of the indie label Elephant Stone Records. Her loose narrative themes revolve around a fascination with punk rock, aristocracy, Renaissance portraiture, aging socialites, gothic divas, and medical history. She attended Art Center College of Design in Pasadena, CA before receiving her BFA from California Institute of the Arts. She has participated in solo and group exhibitions throughout North America, as well as Europe, the Middle East, and Australia. Born in Ann Arbor, Michigan, she has taken up residence in Laguna Beach, Los Angeles, and Boston. She and her husband, writer Ben Vendetta, live on the shores of Lake Erie in Cleveland, Ohio. Her book  The National Portrait Gallery of Kessa: The Art of Arabella Proffer  was published in 2011 by Cooperative Press and she has appeared in The Wall Street Journal ,  The LA Times ,  The Plain Dealer ,  Cleveland Scene ,  Hi Fructose Magazine ,  Juxtapoz Magazine...

The only way two people can move on after there has been hurt is if there is a true apology followed by action. There is no amount of candy, flowers and I am sorry that will mask the wound if it isn't being treated properly to insure that the wound will ever reappear. It will   take a good deal of analyzing on your part so that you can pinpoint the factors that lead to the breakup to begin with. Only then can you   craft your own plan of getting that person back by “reverse-engineering” the relationship and every mistake that led to it falling apart. Time always heals, but that is all it will be especially if you expect the damage to just be ignored or disappear. Those damaging factors need to be gone for good in order to insure the strength, value and love you seek. Love doesn't go away in a day, but a person like myself  that values her own heart will love herself more than to ever think that her love wasn't worth you fixing and getting rid of the problem t...

Congrats to Sarah Williams.  I am so excited that this painting done by me and Angel DeJesus has an official new home. It brings tears to my eyes and I am overwhelmed by the love and support that you all have shown me for the art I do and this particular piece which was done out of love with my partner at that time.   Thanks for all that participated in this raffle.  God bless you.  

I have had more than my fair share of ups and downs in the last year and I am sure there will be a few hiccups to overcome this year, but having the support and love from my kids and friends has been the most wonderful testimony because the ones that are currently by my side even in my darkest days, have shown me they were my true supporters.  We need to go through those downs at times to see that  and you better know I asked the Universe to reveal them and I was pleasantly surprised by it's answer. There were folks that came out the woodworks and have literally told me that I had inspired and gave them the determination to go after their life goals and dreams and that I was their strength when they were down. My jaw dropped to the ground and my eyes have been full of tears because although there has been a battle within my own self, God wanted me to know because of what I did for others, that those same ones would be there to be my strength and guide as well. I am beyond...

Two powerful little words we will be discussing on Bomb Squad Radio Show TONIGHT at 7pm on    www.voiceitradio.com  It is AFFIRMATION FRIDAY and a great way to kick off 2015. You can call in and share some of your own affirmations at (216) 694-8910.

It feels so good to start off the new year in a giving spirit. Proceeds will be donated to a local woman's shelter. This cause is near and dear to my heart due to the fact I was raised in an abusive home and found myself once in a shelter with my mom and sisters. This is setting the tone for the rest of my year. This is a 30x30in mixed media painting. On the side of this post is a Donate button. Please click! For each $1 spent is one raffle ticket. You will be emailed your raffle number. Winner will be announce here and on my FB page Lolo Knows and on Jay Soirée's page on January 7th at 12pm. Thank you for all your help!  Good blessings to you all.