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Don't wait till a new year to begin making those changes you want to do. Those changes should be today. Each day we should wake up and simply want to live in each moment that is given.  What baffles my mind is how people can think that they have all of the time in the world to begin what it is they keep putting off,  but what if you were just given today or next week. What would you do? A DJ friend of mine and to many others got into a horrific car accident and I am sure he did not plan to spend his whole holiday fighting for his life to stay alive. His life changed in that instant and so did his families. Even God states in Ecclesiates 9:11 "Time and unforseen occurrences befall us all." How about each day is a new day and a new beginning. If you have dreams to whatever you want to be in life, live that dream today.  I had a series of ups and downs and felt my life in an unbalanced shuffle of sorts. I didn't wait till a new year to make a change, I vowed to ta

With over 40,000 people each year in the United States alone, this silent but deadly killer should not be ignored. Most depression is caused by severe induced stressed in a person. Over 350 million people worldwide are affected. With numbers like this, it is a real and serious issue. While neurons and chemicals may be the direct influencers, many genetic factors have been discovered as well. It's important to remember that depression is a disease with a biological basis, along with psychological and social implications . It's not simply a weakness that somebody should get over or even something we have a say in. And just like heart disease or cancer, shedding light onto the subject is of the upmost importance. I share the same views of this article written by Katie Hurley for the Huffington Post. It hits home for the both of us and I am sure it will do the same for you. Getting help and feeling of worth is of the upmost importance to living a life we all deserve and in keeping

Tomorrow is always a new day, a new beginning and a fresh start to get it right. There are dark silent moments of self loathing that bring disappointment about life's obstacles and the choices we made  that didn't go like we planned or thought it would go, but each morning that we awaken to a new day, is the Universe's way of letting each of us know that the plan is still a go and our lives will manifest correctly if we only just trust, have faith and believe even if we don't have all of the answers right now. As a Pisces, we are known as the go with the flow types. It's definitely my truth, but it also has had it's downfall when I allowed myself to flow and focus too much on others and not enough on myself. It forced me to sit down and have my quiet moments just so I can listen to that inner voice, that screaming child that knows exactly what she wants and is screaming loud enough for you to listen. I finally heard her. I am becoming more and more aware of wh

"Our heavenly Father understands our disappointment, suffering, pain, fear, and doubt. He is always there to encourage our hearts and help us understand that He's sufficient for all of our needs. When I accepted this as an absolute truth in my life, I found that my worrying stopped." Charles Stanley Doubt can rob you of your dreams, of becoming more educated, and of future growth and development. It paralyzes you and prevents action, courage and bravery... all key elements to becoming a champion in life and business. It can cause you to create opinions and beliefs without even pursuing the doubt, or worse, without educating yourself on the thing you doubt. Call to Action: When you doubt something or yourself, ask questions about the subject, learn about it, educate yourself, ask for help from someone you trust or admire, etc... there are many ways you can PURSUE YOUR DOUBTS. Don't sit on the sidelines like everyone else when a doubt arises. You owe it to yourself and

"Someone once said holding resentment toward another person is like drinking arsenic and hoping the person you are resenting dies. Buddha put it another way: “Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else—you are the one who gets burned.” This helps put it into perspective, doesn't it?  It is the mental and emotional act of resending toxic and negative energy through our own minds and bodies, repeatedly. This is not to diminish the fact that many of us may have legitimate reasons to be angry towards another person. Sometimes people do thoughtless and even cruel things to each other. However, stop and think about it: Does holding onto resentment serve YOU in a positive, life affirming way? Most likely, the answer is no. In many cases, the person or people we hold in resentment don’t even know or care...or worse yet, some of them are already in the grave but we are still allowing them to hold us hostage to the past. What

I can't tell you how much joy and satisfaction I get from loving others, but it's only because I love myself. I have questioned that love many times only because I felt as though there were times that I would self sacrifice and give my all to others, but only to feel left depleted after when things didn't always work out the way they were suppose to. I think we all have felt this way whether with a friend, relative or most commonly, a significant other.  Here are some things I practice in loving myself that I find that work especially after going through disappointments. Give it a shot and do it daily and watch it change your whole outlook and perspective in life. #LOLOKNOWS 1.  Begin your day  with love (not technology).  Remind yourself of your worthiness before getting out of bed. Breathe in love and breathe out love. Enfold yourself in light. Saturate your being in love. 2. Take time to meditate and journal.  Spend time focusing inward daily. Begin with 5 min

I am honored to be interviewing my next guest TODAY on LOLO KNOWS RADIO SHOW along with my cohost,  Jay Soirée , it's Neo Soul Singer, Durand Bernarr. In 2010, he had been discovered by artist Erykah Badu who reached out to him and invited him to be a part of her band, Neda Stella. He is currently working and touring full time and my show will be interviewing him TODAY at the Grog Shop where he is set to perform beginning at 8pm. Tune in at 6pm for my show which is starting earlier due to the live show. Log into  loloknows.com  and click on Lolo Knows Radio Live at 6pm or  Mixlr.com/loloknows .

Read this article and it was spot on for what I just went through in my previous relationship. It sucks knowing that you can love someone for a lifetime but not be with that person for reasons this article points out, but one day the hurt will surpass and the scars will heal fully once a good amount of time has passed. That is exactly what I am doing. It's good to take that necessary time to just heal and unpack that baggage for good. Loving yourself is the best medicine you can give. http://elitedaily.com/dating/sex/means-love-someone-can-never/

Each day is a meditative process for me to advance myself into enlightenment. I didn't  just wake up one day and say, "oh, I want people to hear what I have to say based on what I know." I live to know what I know and that's why I am sharing with you. I am conscience of who I am and how I would like the world to perceive me and live exactly the way I want my character to live on after I have checked out of this human existence. I have developed trust in the wisdom that created me and that is exactly why I smile and get out of bed each and every morning knowing my grand purpose is being sought after and it's developing and becoming as I am writing this blog. I live each day thankful that I woke up and to see my kids and speak to the people that mean the world to me and believe that if I were to leave too soon, there would be a huge hole in their life and I would be dearly missed. Your life has meaning and a purpose and no matter who hurt you or what complica

This beautiful woman is my friend Kim and her son Devin. He was diagnosed with a rare brain tumor and is currently getting treatments at the Cleveland Clinic. A curve ball thrown in life is what we can expect because we all have a limited window of opportunity in this world to live and perhaps make a difference. I choose both and at this time. As you know, treatments are very expensive and a community has rallied to help. They have roughly over $13,000 raised on www.fundly.com/devinforthewin and raised more at a charity dinner, but it's still not at their goal of $100,000. Please click on the link to make your donation today. Every little bit helps. I will be talking to Kim about an event that I would like to throw. It will involve shaving off my hair. Mind you, my hair took years to grow and it is now down the middle of my back, but it's only hair and with healthy eating, taking biotin, it will be back in no time. It's all to help my friend whose only child is in need. S

We all have so much to be grateful for. I will have to say that there are days that make that grateful list seem so small because life can throw us curve balls everyday. Yesterday was one of those days for me. I had a heavy heart! My mind went from what am I doing to who am I and what the hell do I want for my life? Are my prayers good enough? Do I have enough faith? Oh, and this one... I think I want to sell everything I own and leave. All of this spun out of control due to someone I considered a friend had some pretty mean things to say to me. I really felt like I walked into the Devil's house and he fucked me up. It made me second guess everything.  Here's an awesome quote attributed to Steven Winterburn “ Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes.” This couldn't be further from the truth and you know what is funny about this quote is my so-called friend told me they were

I can't say how true this actually is. The old saying is,  "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?" Ladies, it's all good to give this man the best you can give but don't go out of your way to be a wife when he hasn't even given you a ring or set a date for the wedding. Wives have different duties than girlfriends. Stay in your lane!  When he is ready to move forward in your relationship, then by all means do the laundry, cook those meals, clean his house, take care of his appointments, run those errands, be his bookkeeper... You get my drift? In the meantime, your role should just simply be  enjoying your date nights, talking about your careers and building your friendship period. I know there are different strokes for different folks, but too many times I have seen women getting hurt because they put their best foot forward with no pay out in the end. Just love and be patient with yourself and trust God that he will place the right

Today, I got visited by not one, or two, but three Blue Jays and I had to know what it meant. It's very rare to see these birds just hanging around especially when it is winter time here in Cleveland. I have had some guidance by these symbolic animals over this last year. One came in my dream which was a white wolf and I saw a frog sitting outside a restaurant earlier this year, staring at me. I had to do some research on what they were trying to tell me. We will just go with the Blue Jays today, but first let me give you the meaning of Spirit Animals and what they can mean for you.  Spirit animals are typically associated with traditional as well as modern Western shamanic practices. During initiations or shamanic journeys, the shaman would find one or several animals that she or another person is associated with. Traditionally, the spirit animal is used for guidance.  Think of your spirit animal as a guardian spirit or spirit guide. It can play the role of protector and provides

The spirit of forgiveness is harnessed within the spirit of love and compassion–the love characteristic in how we are taught that God loves us; the love for which most of us love our children, our family, and even our friends. I’m not speaking of ego-based love, which is usually associated with being “in love,” or “passionate love.” I’m speaking of the unconditional love we usually reserve for those who we put beyond our egos. If we can find it in our heart to delve for this compassionate loving spirit for all those we love, especially those we are “in love with,” we will find it impossible  not  to forgive our beloved when we perceive they have hurt us. Now just because we forgive someone does not mean that we should allow anyone to continually hurt us. It means that we release them from the anger, resentment, and bitterness usually associated with an unforgiving spirit. It means that we love them, in spite of….. We love them whether they are in our lives or out of our lives…just like